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Around the world, many children suffer from being bullied by schoolmates, neighbors, or former friends. By the way, bullying means teasing and mean insults by peers. This can also happen over the Internet. For example, if people say things about you on Facebook that aren’t true, that’s cyberbullying. In our section “About bullying” you will find some texts with general information about bullying and cyberbullying.
What can you do if you are being bullied? Quick help is especially important here. Therefore, we would like to give you 10 tips today, which should serve as first aid in cases of bullying.
1. Defend Yourself
Special self-defense courses for kids aim to give children like you more self-confidence. Working alongside trained martial arts experts, you’ll learn how to extricate yourself from critical situations. The focus of self-defense classes is to prevent things from getting that far in the first place. You learn how to avoid conflicts and how to make it clear to your opponent that you will not put up with anything.
This alone can protect you from attacks by your peers. Because most of the time, kids pick the weakest, most insecure kids possible to bully. With a strong demeanor, confident posture, and appropriate defense techniques up your sleeve, you won’t be as easy a target.
2. Take Notes
Write down when you’ve been harassed. In your notes, you should write down who was with everyone and exactly when the teasing happened. Also, record what swear words or mean sayings were used against you.
In the case of cyberbullying, you can screenshot postings and messages that are inappropriate. This is an image of what is on your screen. To do this, simply press the “Print” key on your keyboard. Then you can save the image to a file. If you don’t know how to do this, ask an adult or an older child for help.
Such records and screenshots will help later if the perpetrators or their parents deny that bullying occurred. You’ll have powerful arguments in hand.
3. Sometimes You Need Help
Depending on how and why you are being bullied, you may feel ashamed of it. Those affected do not want to appear weak and therefore unfortunately keep their problems to themselves for far too long.
However, it is okay to get help. In bad cases, timely help even saves you from worse consequences and serious health consequences. After all, bullying can have a drastic effect on mental and physical health if you struggle with it alone.
That’s why we would like to urge you at this point: Don’t stay alone with your grief! On the Internet, there are forums and groups of like-minded people who suffer from bullying or are former victims of bullying. They can give you valuable advice. It also helps to share your grief with kids who feel the same way you do. A sorrow shared is a sorrow halved.
In addition to the numerous Internet communities, there are psychosocial services at some schools. Specially trained coaches are available to help with all kinds of grief. You can talk to them about where the shoe pinches. Then you can get addresses and phone numbers of other agencies that can help with bullying.
Do you like reading? There are now some good bullying books that provide solution-oriented information about the problem. It’s best to ask in a well-stocked bookstore or do some research on the Internet.
In any case, you should also talk to your parents about the fact that you are being bullied. If you don’t have a good relationship with them, then confide in another family member (e.g. aunt, uncle, grandma).
4. Changing Schools Should Be The Last Resort
We are all different. So everyone deals with difficult situations differently. Some of us would rather just run away when things get tough. If you feel like you’re not strong enough, you might even be afraid to go to school.
Changing schools usually solves the problem only for a short time. As a “newcomer” in a class that has already developed a certain cohesion, it is difficult to make connections. Sooner or later, there may be renewed exclusions and quarrels.
Basically, you should change your appearance and make sure that you are no longer such an easy target. To do this, you need to have a strong sense of self. Over time, you’ll learn to let mean kids get the best of you by not taking their stupid comments seriously. In the long run, this will help better than changing schools or classes.
5. Individually They Are Weak
Bullying in a group is not difficult. You can usually find a few hangers-on who laugh out loud at the taunts. If you confront the ringleaders when they are alone, they suddenly don’t have as much to say.
If you are being bullied by a group, counter that individually they would never dare to say such things to you.
Sometimes it helps if teachers or parents explain to the perpetrators individually that bullying is neither allowed nor okay.
6. Verbal Training
During “dry runs” with your parents, look for funny sayings that you can use to disarm the perpetrators. Re-enacting such situations at home will make you braver.
That way, the next time someone tries to make you look foolish, you’ll have a punchy response ready. In addition, it is your teachers’ duty to address the issue. Bullying should be made an issue during a school lesson. Some teachers train their students on how to verbally (i.e., linguistically) defend themselves against bullying.
Therefore, talk to your class teacher about it, too! At most schools, bullying is not tolerated by the management or the teaching staff. Usually, the perpetrators are dealt with quite quickly and mercilessly as soon as their behavior has reached the adults.
7. Distance Yourself From Insults
It doesn’t help to get on the same level as the offenders. Most children respond intuitively by scolding them back. This only results in unnecessary arguments. Later, it’s hard to figure out who started it.
That’s why it’s better for you sooner or later if you consistently distance yourself from quarrels and teasing. Counter with a snappy line that doesn’t offend. Or leave the room without a word to get help.
By the way, it’s much easier on your nerves not to let bullying affect you outwardly. Try not to let yourself be teased. Because then the teasing becomes uninteresting for the troublemakers.
8. Bullying By Teachers? What You Can Do
Unfortunately, there are teachers who expose individual students in front of the class. This is not okay and can result in serious professional consequences for the teacher. After all, the teacher’s job is to support you and protect you from bullying.
Make your teacher aware if he or she has offended you. Express your feelings without scolding. If he embarrasses you again in front of the whole class, retort something like, “I don’t think it’s fair the way they treat me. Because I feel belittled by your comments. I ask you not to talk to me like that anymore”.
Talk about it with your classmates, too, and ask how they feel about the teacher’s behavior. Together you are strong! A situation like this can greatly strengthen class cohesion and benefit you as a group. To do this, however, you must support each other and act as a unit. If you feel the situation is unacceptable, contact the management. If several students or even an entire class approach the principal with a request, they are usually taken seriously.
9. Protect Yourself From Cyber Bullying
Bullying has never been easier than it is today. That’s because now you don’t have to get right in the victim’s face to bully them. You just go on Facebook and write all the mean things you can think of on the kid’s chronicle. This is not only unfair but extremely cowardly!
Because cyberbullying is easy and fast, teasing is a bigger problem today than ever before. Cowardly kids in particular even manage to remain anonymous as perpetrators. They simply post under a false name to escape the consequences of their actions. By doing so, they hope not to get caught or even punished.
To prevent this from happening in the first place, you should exhaust all possibilities to protect yourself from cyberbullying. Facebook and Whatsapp allow you to adjust the security settings for your profile. You can read more about this in our texts on cyberbullying.
10. Focus On The Good Things In Life
In difficult times, it’s easy to lose sight of what’s important. There’s no point in getting angry about the everyday nastiness of your classmates. Instead, try to focus on other things. Because as a victim of bullying, you always need a distraction from your own worries. Only in this way can you manage to muster enough strength to fight to bully.
Go after your hobbies, meet with (true) friends and enjoy your life wherever you can. Visits with dear family members give you security and strengthen your back. You may even be able to confide in someone and find an ally who knows about your problem.
Sports activities in particular help your body to relieve pent-up stress. Enjoy a bike ride in nature or go to the gym to do something good for yourself. You’ll see: you feel much freer when you’ve had a good workout.
Worksheet For The Text
1) Explain the difficult words in the text.
2) What can you do if you are treated badly or exposed by the teacher?
3) What tips do you remember most? Write down at least three of them and describe them as precisely as possible.
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