Perfectionism is that pesky little trait that says you have to be perfect all the time! You think you have to be on top of everything, you have endless lists of things to do, and you measure your self worth in your productivity and achievements.
In being a perfectionist, you set unrealistic goals for yourself, and when you fail to reach those goals, you may fall into depression. It is crucial to realize You Don’t Have to Be Perfect to get stuff done!
Follow these tips to combat perfectionism and still get stuff done:
Make a List: Although you probably already do this, make a shorter list with only the most important things to get done on it. Instead of having 50 things a day on your to-do-list, try to accomplish only 10 things a day. Remember, you don’t have to be super blogging woman.
Set Time Limits: Because most perfectionists spend so much time thinking and rethinking something they have to do, set yourself a reasonable time to accomplish a task. For example, if you have a paper to write, give yourself 1 hour to write your rough draft and set a timer. Refuse to change anything until you are finished with the entire paper. Once you have finished, go back with fresh eyes the next day to make any tweaks. Again, set yourself an hour to do any edits.
Don’t Over Think: It is important to do your best, but you cannot be perfect. Don’t over think a project. Stop thinking about what so and so did or how you’re doing it wrong. The thing is, you are harder on yourself than anyone else.
Give Yourself Time: Being perfect all the time is tough, and it can drastically take a toll on your body. If you want to be able to give your best for years to come, it is important to take a break for yourself. Take time just for you. Whether it is to read a new book, get your nails done, or enjoy a back massage, you need to do it. Relax your muscles, your mind, and take the stress of perfectionism off your shoulders with a little R&R.
Learn to blog: If you are trying to start a blog, then you know how completely overwhelming WordPress can be when you are just starting out. People make it seem so easy, but in reality, there is so much you need to learn. You have a few choices there: Give up (not recommended), take forever reading blog post after blog post to learn what to do in all the wrong order, OR take the Mom Blogging 101 course and learn it all in 5 weeks in the correct order. I know what I would have chosen when I started!
Slow Down: It may seem funny to slow down when you have so much to do and need to get it perfect, but slowing down helps your brain think much clearer. Take some time to exercise, do YOGA, or meditate. Quieting your mind releases toxins from your body and other stress hormones that prevent you from thinking clearly. The more time you take to relax your mind, the easier tasks will be to get accomplished.
Eat Right: If you are constantly thinking about getting everything done perfectly and on time, you may skip a meal or two. When your brain and body is deprived of adequate nutrition, our brains can’t think clearly and we tend to make more mistakes. As a perfectionist, this increases your stress and anxiety. In order to get stuff done quickly and efficiently, it is important to take breaks to eat. If this means eating breakfast before anything else and setting alarms to eat throughout the day, this is what you need to do.
Sleep: It can be hard to shut your brain down at night, but without adequate sleep, your body and brain deteriorate. Try staying off all electronic devices an hour before you go to bed to reduce brain activity. Calm yourself by taking a relaxing bath, reading a book, or meditating. Another way to calm your mind is to use background noise like the sound of the waves, birds chirping, or rain. The more sleep you get, the more refreshed you will feel and the better you will be able to combat your next to-do-list.
Just Do It: At the end of the day, sometimes you need to just do it and get it over with. All the planning in the world won’t stop mistakes from happening. You’re new at something in the beginning. Sometimes we learn best from out mistakes!
Combating perfectionism doesn’t mean you have to completely change who you are; it just means making changes to get the most perfection out of you while decreasing stress and anxiety.
What other steps have you made towards combating perfectionism? Let us know in the comments.