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Tenderness instead of sex
Most men avoid contact with their partner’s private parts during the first three months. For many, the sexual dry spell comes unexpectedly. Slowly you have to get closer again. Understand yourself as a man/woman again and not just as a parent.
Women usually need more time
The first time after the birth
At some point we just gave it a try. ” Your vagina is somehow different,”
he suddenly said. That was about the last thing I wanted to hear as a woman. Somehow it was strange. As if one would just sleep with each other for the first time. Only not so romantic. But you don’t immediately have the same sex as before.
You are more cautious, but also more insecure.
The desire comes back on its own
I believe that my boyfriend’s desire for sex has not diminished. He has skilfully provided himself with a remedy. Only the desire for sex with me, that was just gone. Perhaps it is also the habit that stands in the way. After all, you first come to terms with not sharing your desire with each other.
With the weaning my body belonged to me again
Many men don’t find it particularly sexy when milk spurts out of a woman’s breast.
So they often disregard it altogether. After breastfeeding, my body was completely independent of my baby again. By then, at the latest, most women also find their way back to their sexuality.
New love life
Once a certain routine has been established with the baby, it’s easier to focus on your sex life again. I, too, took my time with it. When we tried it again the first few times, it still hurt a lot. Then we simply postponed sex indefinitely. After all, there are other ways to create closeness. Since giving birth is not in itself a reason to give up sex, just talk about when you feel ready again.
Then you can rediscover yourselves together.