When a woman has children, everything changes. Not only is her whole life turned upside down – her love life is, too. But what about the sex life of single women? The world is silent about that. And why is that? Because there’s often not much to tell.
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Single Mother: Never Sex Again?
Let’s assume that I want to go on a date with a man I think is great. The thought of my child sleeping next door in the evening doesn’t give me any lustful thoughts. So we sit on the sofa making out until the mood is abruptly interrupted. I will smile in agony, go next door and stay there until she is asleep again. If he hasn’t left by then, I can already speak of luck. But until this patient gentleman appears, light-years can pass.
Opportunity Makes Love
If I had the opportunity to have sex, I would have to take it. Only there is no opportunity. When it comes up, I have a free evening to go man hunting. But honestly, then I’d rather use those free evenings to do something with girlfriends, or just sleep.
From Mother To Sex Goddess
If the time ever comes, I want to be prepared. So I buy myself some lingerie. They may look sexy, but they don’t conjure up a man. Behind my apartment door is first and foremost a mother. When I’m out with my daughter, the flirt factor goes to zero. I’m also far too busy with her to notice any signals.
Sex At The End Of The Needs Food Chain
A person with needs and a young child quickly learns to sort all their needs by urgency. Eating, sleeping, showering, going to the bathroom – things taken for granted become a challenge. Sex is simply at the bottom of the food chain. If you can’t even go to the bathroom by yourself, how can you have sex?
Sex Dates When The Child Is Away
When can I meet up with him? In the morning? Too unromantic! So I need to plan my dates. I need a babysitter. And babysitters are expensive, so you think twice about whether it’s worth it. Most want ten euros an hour. So strictly speaking, I’d have to pay for sex.
Kisses On The Neck And Screaming In Bed
You touch each other seemingly by chance, your eyes meet. You kiss, caress and there is screaming. The baby has a wish and is not afraid to accompany it acoustically. It was nice foreplay, but nothing more.
When Sleep Is Simply More Important
Besides the baby always waking up at the wrong time from an erotic point of view, my need for sleep plays a crucial role. After all, when you know you have to get up at night, there’s often only one activity you want to do in the evening: sleep.
As quickly, as long, and as undisturbed as possible.
The Baby – A Mood Killer?
My baby is always with me. There is little time to devote to the pleasurable things in life. But it’s not just the baby, it’s also my demands on a lover. Sex? Yes, but not at any price.
I Want! I Want!
Seemingly mundane, but influential: jealousy. In the beginning, everything belongs to the baby. Including the breast. Then there is this man who ensnares the mother, takes her in his arms, and makes her laugh. The consequence is usually jealousy. In the end, a man remains second fiddle, and even if a kiss is light years away from passionate sex – patience is the art of hoping!
