Are you trying to stop your child from their chronic pacifier use? It goes by many names - pacifier, pacie, binky. Some moms swear by it and some hate it. It is blamed for lisps and dental problems when kids get older. But the big question is - once you start using it, WHEN and HOW do you let go of the pacifier?
Let Go Of Pacifier Use
Both of my kids have used pacifiers and I am so glad we did. They helped my kids sleep through the night and comforted them when they were fussy, sick or tired. I'll never forget that panicked feeling of being out in public and having forgot the pacifier at home. While pacifier use is frowned upon by many, for parents like myself it was and is a lifesaver.
With my older daughter, we "planned" to let go of the pacie after she turned a year old. Our plan was to wean her slowly by only using it for naps and bedtime, then only naps, then not at all.
Did you notice the quotation marks on planned? Planning anything around kids is usually not a great idea - nothing goes to plan. I'm to blame though - even though we had a plan, I didn't stick to it. Her pacifier use continued past my planned date, despite our desire to stop it.
My daughter didn't have a hard time letting go of the pacie, I did.
Finally, "I" had to go cold turkey and lose the pacifiers. The next few days were tough, but not as tough as I thought they would be.
Now my second daughter is 14 months old and I've started thinking about what to do with her pacifier. I asked some other moms how they handled it.
Advice and Stories from Real Moms
Only at bedtime
We started off by letting the kids use it only at bed time. If they sneak it during the day, they are picked up and placed in their bed. Before you know it, not wanting to spend the day in bed, they gave it up in the daytime and soon enough at night as well. - Lady Lilith, Little Lady Plays
Another vote to start slowly
One of my daughters was extremely attached to her pacy. We had to very gradually wean her from it. It started with only using pacies at sleeping times and then we slowly went from there. - Ginger, Gingerly Made
Let it go! Let it go!
We are trying to “give up the binky”. Thanks to the beloved movie Frozen my child now knows how to say, “Let it go!” Loud and clear she will scream it. We tried hot potato once with the binky as a distraction to get it out of sight. She might as well have been standing on tacks she was screaming let it go as if she were Elsa herself. Now we sing “let it go, let it go, the binky has got to go!” Binky goes to “its bed and gets tucked in” and she goes to hers. - Tahnee, Sincerely Rose
Some kids just don't like them
We started my kids off with pacifiers (from the hospital), but for some reason, they never took to them, so we never had that problem! - Lauren Kim, Mom Home Guide
Let your kid call the shots
The day my youngest daughter turned 1, my husband and I were already planning on how to wean her off the nuk. That night, she walked to the garbage can in the kitchen and just threw it away! Apparently she had to call the shots! - Rikki Kruger, omgmommymoments
Cold turkey
This was a tough one for my oldest daughter. We are an adoptive family and when we traveled to Ethiopia, the nannies would not have it. They refused to allow us to use a pacifier. Our daughter did well with it, but it was tough to start the routine to sooth her with it when we were scolded. Eventually once she was home then she used it off and on. She loved her bottle way more. Our second child loved her pacifier. Eventually we just said it disappeared and introduced the sippy cup instead. - Michelle Lepak, Dandelion Patina
Start early - really early
Never use one. - Stephanie, Managing a Home
Thank You Moms!
I think I'll try singing a little Frozen and losing all the pacies pretty soon. When it comes time to limit pacifier use, it sounds like distractions and gradual methods work best with most children!
Books about getting rid of pacifiers
No More Pacifier, Duck (Hello Genius)Pacifiers Are Not Forever (Board Book) (Best Behavior Series)Bea Gives Up Her Pacifier: The book that makes children WANT to move on from pacifiers!Ben Gives Up His Pacifier: The book that makes children want to move on from Pacifiers!
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I think it’s great that some people choose to not give their children pacis but what if they start sucking their thumbs instead? I believe it’s a lot easier to get rid of an object than to get a child to stop sucking their thumb. Can’t really get rid of that…
I might be the odd one here but both of my boys completely gave up their binkies on their own. With my oldest son (he is now 4) he gave it up at 3 months. My youngest (he is 7 months) gave it up at 2 months. They just no longer wanted their binkie. In some sense it’s a relief because I won’t have to wean them but in another it’d be nice to have a “go-to” when needing to soothe them. Guess for now, snuggling will have to do. Either way these are certainly great tips!
We had such a hard time getting the pacifier away from our first daughter that we simply did not give it two the second two. It meant a little more work on my part, but we feel it is worth it to never start with the pacifier.
Good for you!
None of my kids would take the pacifier–which was hard at times, but then I never had to break them from it later. Your post tied for the second highest amount of clicks last week at the Bloggers Brags Pinterest Party and will be featured this coming Monday! Thanks for linking up!
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we were doing pretty good, only giving it to her and night and for naps and then she would give it right back… but all of a sudden she has been obsessed with it again. I feel like I have to start all over.. these tips were helpful!
That’s what happened to me. Maybe time to go cold turkey?